My operating hypothesis, one I have not used personally since I met Mrs ERJ, is that people have periods when they are receptive to new romantic encounters and periods when they are much less receptive.
It is like the pistil of a flower. It is receptive to pollen when it is sticky. I like that word "sticky".
You could ride a bus with a young lady for three years and she might be resistant to your suggestions of a date because she is not sticky. Or, she might break up with her boyfriend and be very sticky. Or, perhaps she graduates with her degree or lands a job that allows her to stop working her second job...maybe that makes her sticky.
The thing about "sticky" is that most normal, healthy people will not stay sticky for long. Somebody will pass within their orbit and make him/her unsticky.
I used this theory to explain to Belladonna why eligible guys seem scarce for her right now. She is on a mission and a "guy" would be a part-time distraction. When she is ready, when she is sticky, the guys will be all around her like bees around the horseradish when it is blooming.
She did not believe me, nor did she care to be compared with horseradish. It is tough to be one of my kids.
Evolutionary biologists would speculate that war and chaos are likely to make some personalities more sticky. The species must reproduce.
War and chaos increase mortality rates and decrease the time viable candidates are within that orbit.
That war-time bride who was so attractive in the war-zone sometimes does not work out after things normalize.
I would love to hear the opinions of my readers.