I recently had an opportunity give a young person a crash-course on Pragmatic Psychology.
Lesson One: The Three Ps
Priorities, priorities, priorities.
"But I want this AND that!" the young person objected.
"Welcome to adulthood. Being an adult is about making choices and enduring the consequences. As an adult, you have to make hard choices. Do you want to spend your next dollar on 'this' or 'that'? How about your last dollar?" I coached.
"But I want BOTH!" the young person wailed.
"I want to be a billionaire...but it is not going to happen" I replied. "Try to carry two eggs in one spoon and both will hit the floor."
We live in the world of "is", not the world of "should"
We don't have the option of changing the entire universe to conform to our whims. We have to deal with it as it is.
There is only one person you can change...
...and they are wearing your shoes.
It is not all about you
It is not even mostly about you.