1.) Narrow dating pool. Highly successful women still expect to marry "up" and expect the man to pick up the tab. There are not that many men who bring home a quarter-mil a year, year-after-year.
2.) Men who are in that narrow dating pool are generally attracted to younger, hotter women who are not "sassy" or have a big "boss-gurl" attitude, i.e. disagreeable and proud of that fact.
3.) What is left is tainted. The women have "settled" for a string of relationships-of-convenience and the men who might be interested "haven't taken good care of themselves".
Bottom line: You assumed that you could have it all. Bad guess.
Well, if they said it on Youtube, now we know.
ReplyDeleteLOL, mainly because nobody wants to put up with their 'crap'... and they bring it home from the office, and act the same way in the 'home' environment.
ReplyDeleteI'm so glad I didn't go through the whole dating thing . First time I seen my wife she and I were ten years old . I fell head over heels in love with her and pursued her until we married . That was 62 years ago and I have never fell out of love . Don't believe in it . 1 Cor 13 explains it . Love never passes away . Never fails .
ReplyDeleteMet my wife when we were 6. Grew up as friends and have been married for 40 years now.
DeleteAnd after a man has been around the block a couple of times he realizes that if he gets married there is a 50% chance he will end up getting divorced and that 82% of the time it's the woman who files for the divorce. And often the guy doesn't even see it coming and is taken totally by suprise. After that has happened to you and to your buddies you decide you don't need to go through that again.. ---ken
ReplyDeleteOne of the great lies of modern times for anyone is that they can have it all. In point of fact, we all make choices and as a result of those choices, some things are possible and some things become inaccessible.
ReplyDeleteExactly. We can't have it all, men or women.
ReplyDeleteThese type of women seem unwilling to recognize that, and unwilling to recognize that most men aren't interested in their goals.
As mentioned above, the ones that will have them aren't interested, and vice versa.
In fact, there are numerous TV crime shows where this is an essential plot element - I remember one from CSI quite vividly...
A little bit of "Sassy" can be OK, but "Bossy" is always a non-starter.
ReplyDeleteHypergamy....women are driven to "marry up".
ReplyDeleteMen are driven to marry younger and attractive.
Both are biological imperatives. You can ignore
such imperatives but doing so doesn't make them
go away. People who ignore reality always end up
paying a price for doing so.
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ReplyDeleteGreat piece; "facts of life" for both men and women. Great that a woman suggested it.
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I read a few years ago that someone associated with a dating website said that the first question most women ask about a prospective male is, "How much does he make?" The first question that men ask is, "What does she look like?"
ReplyDeleteEvolution has imprinted women's brains to seek the man who is high on the social pecking order. That usually meant a tribal chieftain or, at least, a second-tier leader. Doing so gave them and their offspring the best chance of survival. Women could only have so many offspring, so they became much more selective in their choice for a mate. When women today talk about marrying for "security," it is seldom anything but marrying someone wealthy. Women aren't particularly worried about saber-tooth tiger attacks today, so their concern for physical security has shrunk enormously.
Men, on the other hand, were not as concerned about that issue. If he was an Alpha Male, he could choose the most attractive young woman and his very selection of her as a mate elevated her up the social scale. If she were younger and appeared to be fertile, his chance of having numerous children and passing on his genes increased significantly. Of course, today, infant mortality has dropped to minuscule numbers, and the chance of having children with a 40+ woman would be a dice roll, nor would it even be a goal for most men of "a certain age."
Years ago, I read an article about how even wealthy women are driven to marry up the financial chain, even when "security" is not an issue. Jackie Kennedy married a Greek Rumplestiltskin shipping magnate after JFK's death. Barbara Walters, worth around $40 million, married a man worth $200 million.
A huge status symbol for a male in his 60s is a young, attractive blonde wife he can walk into a restaurant with. Why a status symbol? It seems that 30-year-old, attractive blonde women are very unlikely to marry Walmart or CVS managers who are 30 years older.