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| Borrowed from Irish at The Feral Irishman |
In one case, they showed Mr Gladwell a banal scene between a woman and a man where they were discussing a puppy. They asked Mr Gladwell "Do you think they will still be a couple in 6 months?"
"No clue" was Mr Gladwell's answer.
The researchers informed him that they would not be a couple in six months. And then they slowed down the video. "Do you see it NOW?" they asked.
"Nope" said Mr Gladwell.
They slowed it down even more...and then more...and then more. Finally, he saw it.
Then they showed it at full speed. He was still able to see it once he knew what he was looking for.
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| Look at the bottom of her gray of her irises. You see white rather than gray as her eyelids descend. She is rolling her eyes. |
Eye-rolling is a sign of contempt. Micro-eye-rolls are where the person (often a woman) starts to roll her eyes as she is closing her eye-lids. She doesn't want to start a fight but she wants you to know that she thinks you are beneath her and that she holds you in contempt.
The woman in the animation does a classic micro eye-roll the first time she blinks in the looped animation. Go back and watch it until you see it. It will change how you view people.
At a deeper level
There are probably tens of thousands of snippets of video of pretty women eating popsicles and ice cream cones posted to the internet every year.
Why did this one of a woman who is signaling contempt float to the top of the Darwinian, virtual jungle that is the Internet and make it to Irish's blog?
Is it the implied power-dynamics that reduce this beautiful woman to doing something that she finds degrading?
In the day I was a psych nurse and I was a behavioral therapist and even today I observe people very closely and I pickup their "tells". (You can't poker with me) I base my interaction from there on out. Because I am drama inverse I invariably just walk away with out saying another word. Caveat: If I am felling a bit playful, I will use the information I am receiving and use it against whomever, pushing buttons as it where, immature? a bit, but some need to be hoisted on their petards and I am far a worthy opponent. It is a curse sometimes being trained to closely observe a person's behavior including their ticks to assess and plan their therapy. You can take the boy out of the farm, but never take the farm out of the boy
ReplyDeleteHistorically, I've always valued 'pushing buttons' in relationships you expect to last awhile, on the premise that they will eventially atrophy. It's an investment, and like all investments, it comes with risk. These days the risk seems higher. I still greatly value my relationships with those who still push my buttons. How else can you know they're there? And, while they're there, you can be controlled. Most folks can easily be controlled by pain, as they religiously avoid exposure to it, and that button has not atrophied.
ReplyDeleteERJ, a lot of my own martial art comes down to the idea of subtle visual clues, of "knowing" someone is going to draw and drawing first. It is a helpful skill in the business world as well, learning the cues of others - and learning to mute your own.
ReplyDeleteInteresting...
ReplyDeleteClassic case of poor sciencing. Did you see the study of medical studies? It showed most were pure crap, and the rest had severe problems.
ReplyDeleteIn this case, there are infinite reasons her eyes moved that way. Body language doesn't send precise data packets like this, it encodes body movements to go along with thoughts.
She might have just been taught (or self-taught in a mirror) that it was a secksy move. Girls are weird that way. So are guys. The one thing we want more than anything else doesn't have an instruction manual.
But that's just my opinion.
From the referenced book, a psychiatrist received a request from a patient for a weekend pass. He considered the request and then declined. He later went back to evaluate the interaction as he had it videoed. On frame by frame, the lady had a single portion of a second facial appearance of despair. He had not "seen" it but his subconscious caught it. She later confessed that had he approved the pass, she had planned to kill herself.
DeleteRead the book. Good stuff therein.
If someone was so good at reading body language they'd be the functional equivalent of a telepath, oui? The only way a undermensch could fight it would be to school 'body language' out of their repetoire, but wouldn't that take a lifetime of study? Body language evolved before and alongside spoken language. You couldn't communicate effectively without it.
ReplyDeleteAlthough I can see this as a Rob Schneider movie.
I once had a work partner named "Bucky". We worked opposite shifts, same area.
DeleteBucky was a notorious liar, although most of his lying was for recreational purposes. When he was telling "a big windy", his blink-rate skyrocketed.
It took me a few years to realize that he not only knew this, he USED it. When he really needed to tell a lie and have it believed, his blink-rate was very close to normal.