Wednesday, April 3, 2024

Bent twig (Cumberland Saga)



Deputy Rosa Canina slowed her cruiser down as she approached the stranger dragging a piece of luggage. Its not like she had much choice. The twisting road through the hills had no shoulder and the stranger was resolutely plodding up the middle of the lane reserved for westbound traffic. Deputy Canina followed him for almost one-hundred feet and the stranger did not so much as turn around to look at her vehicle. Seeing no oncoming traffic, Canina shifted to the eastbound lane and passed him.

She did not gun the engine but passed him slowly so she could give him a good eyeballing before stopping two-hundred feet in front of him and turning on her flashers. She was out of her unit before he trudged up to her.

The kid was wearing three, skin-tight Tee-shirts, each with sleeves one inch shorter than the one beneath it. Fluorescent green - black - pink on top. They were intended to display his physique but only served to highlight his soft belly. Baggy shorts that he had to keep hitching up so they wouldn't slide down. Wearing shower-slides with bare feet. Not exactly what Deputy Canina would expect a long distance walker to be wearing in early-April.

The walker made as if to pass the squad car when Deputy Canina used her command voice “I need to ask you a few questions.”

The kid’s head jerked. “Are you putting me under arrest?”

“Don’t get sassy with me. I am authorized to stop and interview citizens in public places as long as I am “reasonable” “ Deputy Canina barked.

The kid pouted “WHAT EVER!”

Deputy Canina didn’t have to ask if he was from around here. He stood out like a 1000 Watt beacon in the night and everything about him screamed “CITY”.

“Do you know anybody in Lusk?” Canina asked.

“What is Lusk?” the teen-ager wanted to know.

“It is the next town up the road” Canina informed him. “It is about 20 miles away or about ten more hours of walking.”

She had deliberately doubled the distance. Sometimes you gotta fire-for-effect.

The kid’s head sagged.

Looking more closely at his face, she saw a split lip and the promise of a magnificent shiner. “Your parents do that to you?” she asked.

“Naw. They wouldn’t dare” the boy sneered. “I got jumped by a hillbilly.”

Well, that ruled out domestic abuse although Canina might have turned a blind-eye in this case. The kid radiated insolence.

Looking over the kid’s pale, spindly legs and knobby knees with the gooseflesh showing, she figured he couldn’t have walked more than a couple of miles. All told, there were about six driveways he could have come down in that distance.

“Somebody drop you off in a car?” Canina asked.

“Nope. I walked from South Carolina” the kid declared.

Canina couldn’t tell if it was sarcasm or if he was so stupid that he expected her to believe the lie. She was leaning toward the second.

“Where are you going?” Canina asked.

“I don’t have to tell you” the kid said.

“Nope. You don’t. But that means that I have to take you in because you are a traffic hazard. Not only that, but you are not dressed for the weather” Canina said.

“You can’t do that without my permission” the boy said.

“I am a sworn law enforcement official and a public safety officer. If I decide you are a risk to yourself or others, I have a duty that I WILL perform whether you give me ‘permission’ or not” Canina bristled.

“So, are we going to do this the easy way or the hard way?” Canina put it back on the kid.

The kid didn’t say anything.

“What is your name?” Canina asked.

“Evan” the kid said.

“What is your last name?”

“I don’t need to tell you that” the kid said.

His story about getting “...jumped by a hillbilly…” was looking pretty shaky. Most rural people would have avoided this kid the same way they would avoid a rabid skunk or a yellow-jackets' nest.

“Tell me about the hillbilly that jumped you” Canina switched topics.

“Outa nowhere and for no reason he just started punching me in the face” the kid said angrily.

“Uh-huh” Canina intoned with very little expression. It was a trick her training officer had trained her in. Sound bored and just the slightest bit interested.

Eyes suddenly blazing, Evan added “And he said it was because I called him a muther-fucker!!!”

“Did you?” Canina asked. “That is, did you call him a muther-fucker?”

“So what if I did. Everybody says that word” Evan retorted, defensively.

“Maybe in the city. But did you call him a muther-fucker?” Canina pressed.
 

Evan looked away, unable to look Canina in the face.

“Where are you heading?” Canina asked.

“St Louis” the kid responded.

“Missouri?” Canina asked, surprised.

“Yeah. Is there another St Louis?” the kid asked.

“That has to be five-hundred miles away” Canina informed him. Looking down at his slides and then back up at his face she said “It would take you 250 hours to walk there, not counting time for sleepin’ and eatin’. You ain’t gonna make it.”

“Tell my your parent’s phone number and I will call them so they can pick you up” Canina said.

The kid smirked. “Won’t do you any good. They locked up their phones and don’t use them.”

Bingo!!! His parents had to be at the Amish place, just a mile east of where Canina passed Evan. She suspected that he would have been more reasonable if she had caught up with him after he had walked a couple of hours. Blisters have a way of taking the wind out of the sails of run-aways but she couldn't afford the risk of his causing traffic accidents.

“Throw your suitcase in the back seat. I am taking you back to your parents.”
 

Evan seemed to waver and then decided to comply. He could run away any time he wanted to.

Canina had him sit in the front seat, in direct violation of department policy.

He was surprised when she pulled into the drive for Copperhead Cove. How did she know?

Seeing the boulder in the drive, Canina called in and told dispatch that she would be away from her unit for a bit and gave her location. Then she opened the door and said, “Looks like you and me are gonna do a little walkin’”
 

Evan pitched his suitcase into the brush. “I ain’t pulling it up that hill.”

Looking around the turn-around area, she saw Amira’s Subaru. She also noticed a long line of fresh scratches along the driver’s side from the headlight to the taillights. Looking at the back of the vehicle, she saw a fist-sized triangular rock with paint shavings on the jagged edges.

She would put that in her report and let the parents deal with the boy. She would also include that the boy clearly stated that his parents had not hit him and would include what he had done to provoke the damage done to his face. Stories had a way of changing over time.

On cue, the dogs started barking and there were four women standing outside of the first house. The oldest woman was holding a shotgun, which she pointed toward the sky after she identified Officer Canina and Evan.

Amira immediately started fussing at the boy and hectored him as they walked back to Constanze’s old cabin.

Canina looked at Alice and offered her professional opinion “That boy is going to be nothing but trouble.”

“I am very afraid that might be so” Alice responded.

***

This was NOT a fun chapter to write but one that needed to be written.

Kids who run-away are usually very naive but think they are sophisticated. They do not have any grasp of "reality". They engage in magical thinking. Usually, they are scooped up after they make it to a big city and have been in-processed by human traffickers or drug dealers. They are damaged goods at that point.

Evan was lucky Canina found him long before that happened.

Evan is only a slight exaggeration of the entitled, responsibility shirking children our society is creating in very large numbers. He is fourteen. Can he be saved? 

What would you do if you were Alice or Sig?

38 comments:

  1. I'm sure someone will dispute this but at fourteen I'm not sure most kids can be salvaged. Too many years of being "spoiled". I've seen one kid that was like that at 14 and became a decent person. If I were the parents I have no clue what I would do.
    In the above person his parents moved him to southern rural area and I think a few encounters with the local"hillbillies" In school helped in the transformation.

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    1. Agreed, probably too late to do any good. But, if someone can be spared to work with him and watch him 24/7, after a couple of years he might see it is better to work and eat than the alternative.

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    2. Fred, you said the problem. IF someone can be spared.

      Spared from nearly hand to mouth subsistence farming to DO the JOB of 14 YEARS of failed Parenting.

      SORRY, when things get THAT REAL (remember Burning Human Flesh that triggered Amira's flight?) there is no SPARE Hands for a social safety net that large.

      Sadly coming soon to a town and city near you.

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  2. Kids are tough! I imagine Sig will be quite challenged dealing with this situation. His skills seem better suited elsewhere.
    As a parent myself, I've struggled with some things. I chose to pick my battles. My oldest Son does not dress nor care for his hair and personal grooming the way I would like him to. But he got good grades, minds his mother and other adults, held a part-time job through school (full time now), saves his money, and never once had to pick him up at the police station (or have him dropped off).
    I'll guess I'll learn to tolerate sweat pants and long hair, if the big pieces of the puzzle are in place.
    FWIW, I've had the best results with him speaking to him as an adult (especially when he wasn't acting like one). He was a bit scared the first time I told him "lets take a walk...", but I never raised my voice nor fist. Just talked to him, like he was an adult. Often times 'kids' shirk responsibility, because they've never been made to feel worthy of it? If you always treat a kid like a kid, they will always act like one!

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  3. What I would do with a kid like that ? Well, after a 'Come To Jesus' lecture on what Life is Like at The Cove, you give the kid a chance to redeem himself. First thing the kid needs to acknowledge is actions he did caused the reaction. An a$$ kicking isn't anything but a learning opportunity.

    Entitled little idjits these days haven't experienced the 'When Life Gets Hard - Lean Into It Until You Push Through' lessons (yet).

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  4. Can he be saved? Yes. Will it be easy? Definitely not. Can the do it at CC? I don't know, though they are more likely to do it than elsewhere.
    Jonathan

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  5. Blaine may be the best person to talk to him. He’s closer to their age and has lived outside the cove for most of his life. He would have met kids like this more than anyone.

    You have to show them a good example of manhood. They need to learn self esteem. And they need some time without Mom belittling them. And as always they need to learn about our Lord.

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  6. Both boys can be saved, but they will need to be broken down, and then built back up - not unlike boot camp.

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  7. 1st Kings 3: 23 Then said the king, The one saith, This is my son that liveth, and thy son is the dead: and the other saith, Nay; but thy son is the dead, and my son is the living.

    24 And the king said, Bring me a sword. And they brought a sword before the king.

    25 And the king said, Divide the living child in two, and give half to the one, and half to the other.

    A difficult situation. And a risky time for the Cove.

    I'd be inclined to put all of them back in that Suburu and send them away. But I am not Soloman.

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  8. ERJ, I had a very small bit of experience with this, although the individual in question was younger.

    The worst thing to do (not that anyone did here, it seems) is to tell them to go. They will likely go just to prove that they can do it. Sometimes just letting that moment pass and talking to them later makes the conversation easier.

    To other comments above, this is a problem for The Cove. Were I Sig or Alice I would have a firm talk with Amira and Walter: this is their problem and they need to resolve it or it will be resolved, most likely by their departure.

    Amira has been through these tough times. She should understand the risk such loose cannons involve.

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  9. I have known a lot of kids like this and I cannot think of any that turned out good. And in a time like this where trust is becoming hard to find and possibly necessary to life I would expect betrayal to be a major concern. I would vote for "Send them away". One bad kid is not worth the risk to the entire community.---ken

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  10. Dad was an old time peace officer. He told me a few stories of juveniles taken just outside city limits and thrashed. "The smart ones will learn, the dumb ones won't." Mom and Dad's dynamic isn't good. I figure if they put him on his own in the cove, maybe that van that Blaine didn't wind up using, and giving him his own responsibility he might make it. His own garden? An animal to take care of? A field to de-rock and prepare for planting? But I don't think easing him into anything will work. It'll have to be shock therapy.

    I remember a story of a young man that was tough to control. They sent him to live with his grand parents in Louisiana. He raped a girl there. IIRC, the daughter of a sheriff. He was found out near an oil lease with a small hole behind his ear. His gray matter had .22 rat shot mixed in it.

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  11. Depends on 'how long' and 'how much' they've been spoiled. That will have to be unlearned, and the reality of their new situation will have to be reinforced. Kids are generally OK as long as they are provided with an example to follow and clear limits.

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  12. Um, I'm guessing from the depiction that he's a sexual deviant (I've seen plenty of spoiled brats and not one that I assume was straight dressed like that, the openly deviant bastards that my nominally Catholic college would have kicked us normies out just for making feel bad on the other hand . . .). I guess in answer to your, "Can he be saved?" I would say, well, it depends: given that sexual deviancy arises from a defective sequences of genes regulatiog one of the 3 deepest instincts in living creatures (fight, flight, f***), if the attitude is arising from something related to that, it's REALLY unlikely to ever change; recall, for example, how the recitivism rate for even hetero rapists is about %100, and how in the old un-PC days the FBI's databases showed how deviant killers had a profile--and it wasn't pretty). On the other hand, if the attitude isn't related to his flawed sex instinct, then nurture might overcome it.

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  13. Officer Canina got lucky.

    If Evan is such a gamer he probably watches u-tub videos of 'sovereign citizens' and the like who hate police and are constantly trying to avoid the consequences of not having drivers licenses, car registrations, or vehicle insurance. The tone of his questions and 'you need my permission to take me into custody' attitude are an indication.

    Sitting next to her he might have gotten froggy and tried to disable her and escape.

    Amira and Walter will have their hands full trying to correct years of neglect of both boys

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  14. One of my favorite podcasters is Jocko Willink. He was asked how to handle kids and gave one of the best answers I've heard: "As far as possible, treat them like adults."

    We don't know what Amira has told her kids about her own history. This would be a good time to explain:
    1. Remember kids, I escaped death during the Bosnian civil war because I came to live among people like these.
    2. These people are your father's family. Yes, they live differently from the way we did in St. Louis. We came here not only because they are our family but because we know they are the kind of people who will succeed in conditions like I experienced in Bosnia, and we need them to stay safe.
    3. We came here now, all of a sudden, because I woke up on Monday (or whatever day it was) and smelled a burned-out house and burned human flesh in our neighborhood in St. Louis - exactly as I remembered it at the beginning of the war in Bosnia. The outside world is collapsing into war and there is no telling how many people, or which people, out there will die.
    4. The way we lived in St. Louis is over, for you and for me. You need to learn how to live here, in their way. They will not change their ways for you, nor for me, nor for your father. But I tell you from my own experience, the way the world is now, their ways are the best I know, and that's why I brought us here.
    5. Make me proud of you.

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    1. Gonna have to say best answer here.

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    2. Stealing an excellent quote from earlier "Amira and Walter will have their hands full trying to correct years of neglect of both boys".

      You're trying to EXPLAIN Bosnia to obviously spoiled and sheltered kids is foolishness squared.

      Momma CLEARLY Never told those kids about her past. They live as "Fortunate Sons" with all whims granted. Why do I say that? Did you read HOW Amira came INTO the Story? About "Her kids will come up when they are tired of being cold and hungry? OUT OF CONTROL KIDS here.

      A clear and present danger to Copperhead Cove. I can "See" them stealing (after all they STOLE the Car Keys, yes?) a firearm to "Prove" themselves after the beating, that they clearly don't feel was deserved or something worse in rage if an innocent remark from some little girl.

      Coral Snakes in the Cove, not even likely to give the rattlesnakes warning rattle.

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    3. I'm surprised that Amira didn't do a better job raising them given her background.
      Jonathan

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    4. Well, Michael, as an alternative she could go all Medea on them...

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    5. Contrarian View, I see you know some of the classics.

      Not the worse option. Far better than good well raised Cove folks getting harmed.

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    6. @Michael - "(after all they STOLE the Car Keys, yes?) a firearm to "Prove" themselves after the beating,..."
      Did I miss a chapter somewhere? I don't recall anything about stealing car keys or a firearm.

      Jim_R

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    7. Jim how did the Subaru get damaged? I don't think the Adults are quite so stupid with an observable rock blocking the road. Only a hormonal brat would try to force the issue.

      I added perhaps not clearly to yourself that someone so out of control to run away using Dad's car is dangerous.

      IIRC he called someone a MF and got in a fight over it, losing poorly. No mention of an apology from either brother in that fight.

      Poor emotional control, violent tendencies, Mixed Martial Arts style Video games that were being played on their phones until taken away.

      I've decades of responding with EMS and have seen this story before. Guns are something POWERFUL for Idiots with no emotional control and grudges for getting their ass beaten.

      Thus, my concern about them stealing them in a society that TEACHES Gun Safety and thus DOESN'T routinely LOCK THEM UP.

      Might not be a gun safe in the Copperhead Cove.

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    8. Evan "keyed" it with the triangular, fist-sized rock. He didn't drive it. He picked the driver's side because he was sending a message that he wanted it to be seen.

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    9. Interesting slighting of Parents prized vehicle. Didn't steal the keys in an attempt to use the vehicle.

      Not a positive sign of a child willing to be under Cove discipline. Out of control. Foul mouthed and inclined to violence.

      Sadly, like too many teens I've met in my recent years of responding with EMS. Some that stabbed their older mother almost to death before calling 911 to lie her "boyfriend" did it.

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    10. The Fable of the scorpion and the frog comes to mind. Aesop I think.

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  15. ERJ,
    Well crafted and realistic portrayal of the encounter. A peace officer appropriately handling a small problem by returning it to the jurisdiction of parents.

    I don’t know what Sig will do. If he asked me I would suggest applying traditional rites of passage to the troublesome youth. Deliberate rites of passage mark the end of childhood and entry into the company of men. A journey rather than an event. boys who succeed become apprentice men; that is they begin taking on the responsibilities and privileges of men. Sig, being a man of faith, might use King David as a model: starting with tending sheep and dealing with lions and bears, building skill and reputation along the way to greater trials. Hashing out the details would be a good discussion for the CC men to have; clarifying how they’re helping their own sons come of age and prepare them to resist temptation of the modern world. Chesterson’s fence looms large.

    I married late in life and have pre-teen sons. We have a rough plan for rites of passage. It will surely evolve. The main idea is expose them to tough but not impossible challenges so they can succeed; build confidence, trust, and respect for themselves and others.

    Amira has a support role in this process, but making boys into men is the job of elder men.

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    1. "...making boys into men is the job of elder men."
      That.
      My son and most of his friends went through the local scout troop. Several Dads and I stepped up to assist running the troop. The Dads group is still going and the and the boys are all still close, variously working, or finishing college/university. My son is home on leave after deployment with USMC. They are all fine young men.
      Differ

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  16. I be young man can turn out fine,but....,will be work.

    First off, a 14 year old is a bit of a hormonal wreck and has been yanked out suddenly from only life he has known,for the best but still,a huge change.

    I feel he needs someone to show him the way/get him involved with jobs he can handle/show him the benefits of the new world he finds himself in.

    Will this be hard and perhaps no matter what a fail,sure,but is not hard work what parenting is,ask as a serious ? as I do not have kids but have played a part in my friends kids lives.

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  17. These are all great comments. I think he will need to be worked hard physically which has a way of wearing down thinking. Some opportunity to prove himself then needs to be offered as a trial. Rites of passage are critical for boys; girls become women, men are made. I'm really enjoying this story and picking up useful info on defensive perimeters. Valerie in NJ

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  18. A million thanks to all.

    Lots of great feed-back. Thank-you for taking the time to put your ideas into words and comment.

    I hope I can do justice to the high-quality thinking you sent my way.

    God Himself knows that we, as a society, are failing our young men and as His hard-hands and strong-backs, it is up to us to step-up and do His work.

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  19. The elephant in the room that has been ignored is the interesting choice of having a Muslim marry a person of a strict Christian background. From personal experience as a Christian who attended a purportedly non-sectarian yet highly Jewish university, my observation from classmates is that marriages between faiths that don’t share fundamental tenets (such as accepting Christ) frequently (yes obviously not always) end in divorce, with troubled kids. Intelligent, but troubled. Although Sig’s brother has yet to be little more than a vegetable thus far, I expect that his ability to stand up to Amira historically was vegetative as well. I also suspect that neither could have been observant in their faiths to remain married. The net result would be that, while both parents might have instilled some moral concepts into their two boys (I will assume Amira being non-observant has overlooked Islam’s numerous calls to treat non-Muslims as little better than beasts and wage Jihad upon them, else no marriage) the kids will be, at this age, beyond recovery unless Sig’s sermons touch them deeply. His old school revival tent fire and brimstone style doesn’t seem suited for reaching those heads full of mush, though.

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    1. I live in a place that is now host to many former Yugoslavs, Bosnian, Croat, and Serbian. My understanding is that the Bosnian fraction of the Balkan Slavs are Muslim mainly because it was historically imposed, not from some deep sense of true and honest Mohammedan faith. The Croats and Serbs clung to the cross (in unfortunate and mutually exclusive ways). In my personally verified experience, Bosnian-Americans are the tequila-drinking, bikini-wearing kind of Musloid, and if we have to tolerate them in our living space that's a better starting point than your hardcore jihadi.

      That's not to say anything you wrote is wrong.

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  20. Well written and leaves more questions than answers... Is he 'worth' saving? That is the real question.

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  21. I second some of the above comments. I think responsibility needs to be taught, even if the kid didn’t get it when younger. A bit of ‘you don’t work, then you don’t eat’ type of stuff. I also think Blain would be a good mentor, having made an adjustment to the Cove also. The parents need to reinforce this too, of course.
    Southern NH

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  22. A simple cause and effect might be along the lines of the kids doing their own laundry. No clean clothes if you don’t do it, and don’t complain to Mom. I wouldn’t give them animal care, too risky for the livestock.
    Southern NH

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    1. Agree, animals don't need abuse from out of control kids.

      Doing there own laundry, no work no food BUT Requires full support of the parents. I wonder how much parenting authority Dad has left.

      Michael

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  23. Lotsa smart folks contributing, comments are almost better than the story.

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