Some girls, maybe not very many, have a high need for drama.
But let me be more precise. They have a very high need for continuous attention. They have a high need for control and to manipulate men.
Example:
A girl moves to Florida. She gets a new boyfriend. After a few weeks her new boyfriend wants to spend a little more time with his boyz.
Girl calls/facetimes old boyfriend in Michigan. "Come down here, I am lonely."
Girl tells new boyfriend that old boyfriend cannot live without her, so he better start playing momma-may-I and kissing her hindmost.
Old boyfriend rings door-bell.
New boyfriend stabs him and clueless, old-boyfriend bleeds out on the front porch after traveling 1200 miles to be with his girl. He was 16.
It would be interesting to see if her inter-personal skills were learned from her mother. That would be an interesting chart, the relationships between the women who are the pivots in incidents of young, male-on-male violence.
What you are referring to has become defined as a woman’s “shit test”. The lady is testing the character of her man to see how he handles adverse situations. This lady is also scratching another psychological itch: low women love it when men fight over them. That is the basic plot of all Harlequin Romance bodice rippers. There is dark humour in it: the woman was seeking to kill two birds with one stone, but ended up killing three.
ReplyDeleteThe so-called pickup artists have made an exhaustive study of female psychology in order to game them. They are out to lunch when trying to explain women of merit and worth… But when it comes to tire biters, trailer trash and low quality women… they are bang on the money with them 9 times out of 10.
Women learn their behavior from their matriarch. Nearly always their mother, but sometimes not.
ReplyDeleteIf she is a drama queen, her mom is one too, or was.
If one wants to delve deeply into this topic, I highly recommend "The Rational Male" book series by Rollo Tomassi.
ReplyDeleteAfter having been married to one of those long ago and seeing it in my extended family, acquaintances and employees I'm not sure if it is learned behavior or genetic. I've seen it in adopted girls that never knew their mother and didn't learn it in their adopted family.
ReplyDeleteNature v Nurture.
DeleteI think both. Mothers teach their daughters a lot of behavior and "Moral" judgements. But it is a part of their behavioral wiring too.
Its like short sightedness in folks with African ancestry. Part is the wiring and part is culture.
Was this an actual event ERJ? To be fair, I would have probably been the boyfriend driving 1200 miles...
ReplyDeleteThe son of the woman who braids Belladonna's hair.
DeleteOh my goodness. One assumes charges has been filed?
DeleteHow utterly awful. And yes, pretty sure that would been me, a thousand years ago or however long it has been
Maybe not.
DeleteThe kid told his mom he wanted to visit his dad in Florida. She bought him a bus ticket. He changed the destination to a different city in Florida.
Quite a few women are "frog farmers." They just instinctively know how to turn princes into frogs, by bringing out the worst in men. And when the men are really boys saturated in hormones and inexperienced, there's a multiplier effect.
ReplyDeleteNot surprising... And usually a 'learned' trait. From whom is the question. Peers? Mothers? Relatives?
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