I had a comment come in as email.
The writer is a little older than I am. More important, his kids are older than mine.
He pointed out that kids like Kubota are playing a game similar to "Suicide by Cop".
They want to grow up but the plays in the playbook are out of their reach.
A Master's at Dartmouth, an Audi Quatro, 3600 square foot house in Hartford...not possibilities for 999/1000.
They are biologically driven to leave the nest but the script blocks them.
What is a fellow to do?
The Kingdom of Knuckleheads
Acting like a knucklehead is a way to salvage dignity.
Getting kicked out of the house is to be driven before the winds, victims of the forces of nature. It is not a factor under the KnH's control...or at least the narrative can be spun that way.
As a parent, we have a tough call to make. How much KnH behavior will we tolerate? What guard rails can we put around the behaviors? Are our kids ready to solo?
Many are. Some are not. In a population of a thousand kids, at least one of them is 0.1th percentile. If you look at modern life their might be twenty mandatory competencies. If so, it is likely that there are twenty individuals who are 0.1th percentile for one of those competencies.
Darwin did not postulate 'Survival of the fittest.' He postulated survival of the fit. We must ask, "Is our child 'fit'? Some times the answer is 'Not yet.'
It is not my place to second guess any parent's choices.