WHY SMART WOMEN ARE OFTEN ALONE
Intelligent women make their own decisions, have their own desires, and set boundaries. You will never be the centre of her life because she revolves around herself. -Source
This author clearly equates narcissism with intelligence.
Intelligent women question, analyze, debate, disagree and move on. These women had a life before you and they know they’ll have a life when you’re gone. They’re here to warn, not ask for permission.
Nothing about resolving differences, reconciling through communication, testing foundational assumptions. Basically, "Agree with me in every detail or I will throw you under the bus and spit on you as I drive by."
An intelligent woman knows that living without violence is a right, not a luxury or a privilege. They express their anger, sadness, joy, and fear equally because they know that fear doesn’t make them weak, just as anger doesn’t make you masculine. These two emotions, along with all the others, make them human and that’s it.
Poor women live with the threat of violence all of the time. Nearly all women in less developed countries also face violence on a daily basis. That paragraph reeks of privilege. Rich women in first-world countries can indulge in such high-brow attitudes because the vast majority of men in first-world countries believe women should be shielded from violence.
The intelligent woman is free because she has fought for her freedom. But she’s not a victim, she’s a survivor. Don’t try to chain her because she knows how to escape. Remember, He’s done it before.
Is Dr Freud in the building? Paging Dr Freud...
A smart woman knows that her worth is not in how her body looks or what she does with it. Think twice before judging her age, height, size or sexual behavior, because that’s emotional violence, and she knows it.
Really! Explain how an "Intelligent" woman can weigh three times her healthy weight? Explain why I should value her worth far more than she gives evidence of valuing it. Emotional violence? Only a very small echo of what she chose to do to herself.
So… before you open your mouth and say you want a ‘smart’ woman in your life, ask yourself if you’re really meant for her.
I would drink a quart buzzard piss before I would voluntarily spend time with the narcissistic harpies who you call "Intelligent". That is why they are alone. Because they are strident, self-centered, confrontational harpies.
"Strident, self-centered, confrontational harpies," and they call their cats their children.
ReplyDeleteAn intelligent woman actually knows which side her bread is buttered on and acts accordingly.
.. and the same people wonder incredulously why men don't want to marry them anymore! Huh.
ReplyDelete"Educated" does not equate to "Smart".
Feeling a little pissy right now - me too. 1. that you would post this shit, and 2. that I actually wasted 7 minutes reading it.
ReplyDeleteIt took seven minutes to read ten paragraphs?
DeleteMaybe they used Anonymous because it took too long to figure out how to enter their name?
DeleteYou Guys!
DeleteStrong, independent, intellectual women ( that don’t need no man) will climb a forty toot tree to spew some beautiful “theory” at you when they could have stood flat-footed on the ground and told you brutal reality.
ReplyDeleteRight to live without violence. And how does one think that right will be enforced? Do we have a right to live comfortably? A right to wealth, regardless of our productivity? This kind of rhetoric is nonsensical. It's like declaring you want a right to not get rained on.
ReplyDeleteWhat human on this planet doesn't want to not be targeted by someone for violence? How do people accomplish that? There are no rights without responsibilities. If you want to avoid aggression, you have to be willing to play defense, which is its own form of violence.
Well written. "If wishes were horses, beggars would ride"
DeleteAdditionally, talking about 'emotional violence" is like the neologism "emotional labor" or "emotional intelligence" -- at best it works to diminish the value and impact of the real thing.
DeleteNot too mention the 'men are violent brutes, wife-beaters,' etc. is a tired feminist trope that has no basis in reality. Check the research yourself. The safest place for women and kids is in a two-parent hetero household.
DeleteWith 75 in the rear view mirror I'm sure glad these days is not where I'm looking to find a wife. Gettin' laid ain't worth puttin' up with that. ---ken
ReplyDeleteYou wouldn't be getting 'laid' if you were putting up with that.
Delete"Intelligent" women are the reason we have so very many crazy cat ladies who never married and never had kids. Which is why they slowly went crazy. That "high paying career" doesn't keep em warm at night or provide the love of children and grandchildren.
ReplyDeleteThere are some tests available - will she wait two years while you complete an overseas tour? Will she piss behind a tree in the woods? Will she raise 3 children while you are in school? A father-in-law who is an SOB will not change. I write this after 60 years of marriage. Nothing went wrong for her or me except the infirmities of old age. But I would also offer the observation that attractive women appear at a rate of about two per year had I have made a wrong choice.
ReplyDeleteI am glad it worked out for you.
DeleteIt is good to know a lass for a year before proposing. If she is wearing a mask a year SHOULD be enough time for it to slip and you can see who is behind the lass.
I don't know how much benefit there is to dating for more than a year. That would be a good post.
Your point about one or two classy women drifting through your life a year is honest.
Have experienced this. There is a LOT of truth here.
ReplyDeleteI was in love with a VERY intelligent woman for many years.
I paid the price.
Crazy cat ladies, generally, is how they end up.
Boy Howdy.
DeleteSeems like painting all intelligent women with the same brush. I've been deeply involved with two intelligent (both PhD hard science; both having been project directors at (different) natl lab), good looking women - married one of them - and neither showed these characteristics. However, I've also known some dim bulbs that have shown these characteristics.
ReplyDeleteI think the original author of the piece was engaging in "sour grapes".
DeleteShe had very few social skills but may have been highly credentialed in some narrow field.
She wrote that as an angry "You can't handle me" as if she were a Hayabusa motorcycle with racing slicks when a more apt analogy would be a mesh bag filled with broken glass, barbed wire and used needles.
She wrote that to salvage a shred of dignity and to feel good about herself by shitting on normal men.
Just before she went to get her first kitten? Poor kitten!
DeleteI believe this women is far less intelligent than she thinks - but she is right about being self centered: THAT is her real problem! (Her liberal beliefs sure don't help!).
ReplyDeleteFurther, what she considers "emotional intelligence" is anything but.
A sad person that I feel sorry for.
Jonathan
My wife and I just passed 45 years of marriage, with a couple more years of dating in high school. Never had sex till our wedding night. Never had sex with anyone else. I believe that to be of extreme importance in long term relationships. She knows more than me in a lot of areas. Her intuition is outstandingly better than mine. I know more than her in a few other areas. I wouldn't say either one of us is smarter. She constantly tells me how great I am and how lucky she is. I know it to be the opposite, but I'm not nearly as good at conveying that message, although I try. On the intelligence side - she stayed home and schooled our two children (one is now a nurse, the other a firefighter) then took a job that somewhat bored her but, when she retired from it, took three people to try to cover and they struggled. Yeah, I guess she is smarter than me. I'm a very fortunate man.
ReplyDeleteGosh, ERJ. Feeling a little ganged-upon. As a 66 year old woman who has never been married, I do take a bit of exception to the Harpy label. I am a pleasant, passionate, independent (sometimes contrary) woman who constantly fights her innate introversion. After a couple of bad experiences in my 20's, I vowed to only cleave to a man if he substantially added to my life. I didn't, and don't need one to complete me, I can do that for myself without the drama (and without cats). I love children (other people's), and see them as a gift from God, but strongly felt that I needed for their sake to mak a stable home with a good man before I had kids. I came close to marriage once, but he wanted me to move to foreign lands for his career, rather than stay here for family, and I demurred. We parted on friendly terms.
ReplyDeleteIndependence and self-actualization are actually rarely indications of badness on the part of women (speaking as one). More often, it's wanting peace and contentment more than the drama of a 45 year old man-child who is only interested in his happiness rather than "ours".
ps: I'm a dog person, and I really don't like cats. But I have never seen an animal for the replacement of anything, rather as an additive.
With love and respect:
Not-A-Harpy
SMART WOMEN ARE OFTEN ALONE : "One who isolates himself pursues selfish desires; he rebels against all sound wisdom."
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