Bachelorhood Day Two: Guilty Feelings have no Rhythm

The Captain let Kubota borrow his crossbow.  It was not returned in the pristine condition that was loaned out in.  The Captain was not pleased.  Kubota attempted to crab sideways and evade responsibility.

Feelings of guilt are a heavy burden.  Often, we think of Karma as an external agency.  As often as not, it is also an internal agent.  Not only do we burn our bridges behind us….we set them afire while we are still crossing them.

Roman Catholics (politely raising my hand here, this is “me”) have the sacrament of Reconciliation.  The guilty party can verbalize their sin.  They can hear another human’s voice tell them that they are forgiven.

One of Alcoholics Anonymous’ twelve steps is to approach those they have injured, and to the extent that it is safe, ask for their forgiveness.

Clearly, there are august organizations that believe that humans need a mechanism where they can verbalize their sins out-loud in order to unbind their sins, sins that will otherwise poison future endeavors.

Kubota’s plans for the weekend are in flames

Kubota made his peace with the Captain this evening  The Captain knows about boys.  Growing up, he was the kind of boy grandparents called “scrappy”.  The Captain does not enable. 

Sometimes I must sit on the bench to demonstrate that I am a team player. Today was one of those days. I got a call from the Captain that he wanted to talk to Kubota.  I passed the message on to Kubota when I picked him up.  Then I took a nap when we got home.  A long nap.  It worked like a charm.

Kubota made his peace with the Captain.  He owned up to what he did and they worked out a plan for restitution.  Unfortunately it was after his plans for the weekend had gone up in flames. 

Go figure.

Belladonna graciously offered to host us for lunch at Grand Valley.

As Robert Frost wrote in his poem The Death of the Hired Man.

‘Home is the place where, when you have to go there, They have to take you in.’

‘I should have called it Something you somehow haven’t to deserve.’

Addendum

Our data plan refreshed at midnight.  Shortly after midnight, Kubota contacted his friend via Facebook.  This is the friend where he hoped to spend most of Saturday.  Between the two of them they sorted out that issue. Kubota's plan for the weekend is back on.