Husband-Wife Families: Necessary and Sufficient

Ever so slowly, more people seem to be coming to the conclusion that the traditional, intact, husband-wife family is best way to raise children.

That the traditional family is "best" isn't just my opinion, it is supported by virtually all objective measures of what a "successful" child/adolescent/young-adult looks like.

Society seems hell-bent on destroying the nuclear family. Spawning out-of-wedlock babies is the norm in some communities and their violence, crime-rates and poverty are terrifying. "Men" brag about how many women they had sex with and how many progeny they left behind. "Women" are complicit as well.

Communities that never abandoned their belief in traditional, husband-wife families are branded as "bigoted" or "quaint".

Baffling

It may be a consequence of "small sample size", but it seems as if a disproportionate share of the attacks on the traditional, husband-wife family are from older, childless married couples.

That could have been ERJ and Mrs ERJ. We built our family by adopting our children and that might give me a unique perspective.

The older, childless couples may be driven by a belated desire to leave a legacy. Not having any children to carry their legacy onward, they choose to "change society". Not having children, they don't have skin in the game. They don't see the corrosive effects their feelz-good efforts have, they don't see the secondary and tertiary effects. Maybe they don't care? Their "legacy" is the important thing.

Or maybe they are grieving the loss of their youth and are grasping at straws to remain hip and cool, cutting-edge and trend-setting. Sorry, Linda. Sixty-three is not "young" any place outside of a nursing-home or a convent.

The older, childless couples throw a long shadow because they are influential in the work-place after having put career above family. They are incredibly influential in media which is the fountain young people drink from.

Pray for traditional, husband-wife families.

Pray that young people learn and use effective problem-resolution skills.

Bonus verse

The White Progressive's Burden

Take up the White Progressive's burden—
    Send forth the best ye neighbor's breed—
Go bind her daughters to exile
    To serve your captives' need;
To wait in heavy harness
    On fluttered folk and wild—
Your new-caught, sullen peoples,
    Half devil and half child.

Take up the White Progressive's burden—
    In patience to abide,
To praise the threat of terror
    And exault the show of pride;
By open speech and simple,
    An hundred times made plain.
To seek another profit,
    And work another gain.

Take up the White Progressive's burden—
    The savage wars of peace—
Fill full the mouth of Famine
    And bid that racism cease;
And when your goal is nearest
    The end for others sought,
Watch Sloth and heathen Folly
    Bring all your hopes to nought.

Take up the White Progressive's burden—
    And tawdry rule of queers,
But toil of serf and sweeper—
    The tale of common fears.
The ports ye shall not enter,
    The roads ye shall not tread,
Go make them with your living,
    And distance them with gated-community's dread!

Take up the White Progressive's burden—
    And reap her old reward:
The blame of those ye betters,
    The hate of those ye guard—
The cry of hosts ye humour
    (Ah, slowly!) toward the light:—
"Why brought ye us from bondage,
    Our loved Egyptian night?"

Take up the White Progressive's burden—
    Ye dare not stoop to less
Nor call too loud on Freedom
    To cloak your weariness;
By all ye cry or whisper,
    By all ye leave or do,
The silent, sullen misgendered
    Shall weigh your Gods and you.

Take up the White Progressive's burden—
    Have done with childish days—
The lightly proffered laurel,
    The easy, ungrudged praise.
Comes now, to search your legacy
    Through all the thankless years,
Cold-edged with dear-bought wisdom,
    The judgment of your Facebook peers!

Apologies to Kipling