People seem to readily accept advice about "How to be Happy" from angry, miserable people who seem to have the least knowledge about the subject.
They also automatically reject what happy people tell them are the keys to happiness. It is like the unhappy person is saying "Oh, well, that could NEVER work for me because my life is so much more horrible than anything they can imagine."
You have to come to the conclusion that most unhappy people are timid and would rather savor their victimhood and anger than to take the steps required to be happy.
Interesting.
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Gratitude is key. If nothing is ever good enough to be grateful for you will be miserable. Chasing perfection is another way to be unhappy. Look at the sad people in your life and you will see this.
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I am struck by the fact that many people seem intent on being unhappy, because unless things are precisely the way they believe things should be, there is always something to be unhappy about.
LOL on Target Sir. Self Help books indeed.
DeleteJust remember if you're going to tell folks the truth, best make them laugh.
The quote "If you're going to tell people the truth, be funny or they'll kill you" emphasizes the importance of using humor when conveying truths to an audience1. Oscar Wilde also said, "The best laughs are on the recognition of truth"3
Speaking as someone who has been known to wallow in his own misery, it’s easier and safer to stay in your own mess. Its scary to step away from what you know, you're taking a chance that you could make it worse. I would agree with the timid part and some folks do seem to wallow in their victimhood, but suspect that the majority simply cant envision a better life nor do they feel empowered to seek it. You might be surprised at how many folks quit therapy/ counseling when the therapist starts zeroing in on the patients thoughts, feelings and behavior.
ReplyDeleteThey are PROUD of their victimhood. They are good with that and all the 'benefits' it brings... sigh And that way, they take NO responsibility for what is happening to them.
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