I had a long post lined up to publish. Upon rereading it there was nothing there that excited me.
Consequently, you get a short, unexciting post. While not exciting, it has the virtue of brevity.
Socializing
A couple of guests yesterday were having a conversation about the awkwardness of "socializing".
ERJ's life-hacks on socializing
- You win if you get the other person to talk about something they are passionate about.
- Points are scored when you don't HAVE to speak
- "... Yes, and...." is a powerful tool. In social situations, ban ".... No, but..." from you lexicon. "Yes, and..." builds on momentum. "No, but..." extinguishes it. Find something the previous speaker said that you agree with. Validate that tidbit and ignore what you disagree with.
- Build on what you are in agreement with.
Birds
Saw-whet owls are very cool birds. They are specialists in eating mice, voles and other small rodents and they reproduce rapidly when given decent habitat. Suitable nesting cavities are usually the limiting factor.
Wish my mother would have told me that 75 years ago.---ken
ReplyDeleteListening is often a difficult skillset. So often we (me included) are not listening so much as preparing our reply.
ReplyDeleteJoes' social words fill in the awkward silence between thoughts. I find most folks hate silence.
Saw whet owls around here (Central NH) do suffer from the "I wanna CLEAN looking Woods" syndrome. Leaving a few old dead trees seems almost a sin to some.
Voles the bane of my gardens. Always a battle to keep them under control. ANY suggestions welcome.
https://nestwatch.org/learn/all-about-birdhouses/birds/northern-saw-whet-owl/
DeleteInteresting. Standard bird house 3 inch opening and clean the box off nesting season.
DeleteI do wonder of the many hawks around here eat them also?
I agree.... We have a "Discovery Night" every Wednesday at church. Learning to facilitate that was a bit of a path for me. I absolutely love that approach to the Word. The passage is told from memory by someone, then we read it from scripture. Then a few questions are provided to spur discussion. "Yes, and.." opens the door to thinking... it spurs the discussion. And that's what the goal is. It took me several weeks to learn to encourage the questions, not have an answer or talk too much. And awkward silence isn't a bad thing to spur thought. I tend to let it go on till it's fully pregnant... Heh....
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