My host at last night's high school sports event informed me that girl's sports, at least in Michigan, are struggling.
Twenty years ago, most high school sports fielded a Woman's Varsity team, a Junior Varsity team and in some cases a Freshman team for many sports. There were robust programs supplying soccer (futball), basketball and volleyball players as well as runners for track and cross country teams.
Currently, at least in the small(ish) rural districts, coaches have to actively recruit underclassmen to have enough players to field a Varsity team. Watching the teams play last night, it was clear that several of the players (at least on one team) had never really played soccer before.
When I asked my host what had changed, she shrugged her shoulders. "The culture changed. Too many distractions." is what she replied.
Specific to soccer, she pointed to the collapse of the intermediate skill-level leagues that supplied the lion's share of prep players in the past. There are still the "recreation" leagues for kids and there are high-end, competitive "travel leagues", but the step in the middle, the one that did not require parents to pay hotel bills in Fort Wayne or involve four hours of travel time are gone.
I know of one family whose entire plan to get their daughter into college was for her to get a full-ride scholarship. I think they would have been better served to hire a math tutor.
For the record, Belladonna knew several women athletes who received partial-scholarships where she went to college. The "drop-out" rate was mind-boggling. My guess is that 2/3 of the student-athletes did not graduate. Of the ones who did graduate, many of them found themselves holding degrees that did not command respect in the work-place.
It was a scam.
Back in the day...
Schools like West Point used athletics to teach life-lessons. Those life-lessons were forged in high-stress, time-urgent crucibles which meant they automatically became the default when the graduates were faced with other high-stress, time-urgent environments.
Other schools like Harvard and Yale, which used to be considered pretty good schools, copied West Point for the same reasons. Their goal was to generate leaders who performed with grace and skill under pressure.
Some lessons
The playing field repudiates the supremacy of the individual. Teams win. Glory hogs do not.
The playing field proves that physics is immune to flowery language and a deftly delivered speech.
The playing field brutally punishes the player who stoops to the cheap-shot.
The playing field teaches that what you do when you don't have the ball is at least as important as what you do when you do have the ball.
The playing field teaches you to trust your fellow team-mates. Know where they are, communicate...and trust them.
The playing field teaches that skills matter. They matter a great deal.
The goalkeeper has the best view of the field. Just because she isn't running until she pukes doesn't mean that she can't tell you how to do your job better.
The playing field teaches that how you practice Monday-through-Thursday is a good predictor of how you will play on Gameday.
The playing field teaches that life choices made off the field impact how your team will play on the field. The playing field teaches that life has consequences.
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The playing field teaches that referees have limits. They don't see everything. They don't call everything they see. Relying on the refs to "call" every infraction is not a robust strategy.
The playing field rewards teams that can learn and adapt after they get schooled by a better team. The playing field brutally punishes teams to refuse to learn.
The playing field rewards teams with plans/plays.
Please, feel free to add to the list in the comments.
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You have deftly highlighted many of the problems facing our society today. Cause or symptom? Little from column A, little from column B....?
ReplyDeleteMy college used to have a big snowball fight between 'old' campus and 'new' campus (collection of dormitory buildings built 30 years apart) every year. School banned it, 'safety' dontchaknow? Another 'tell'.
The inversion is also telling - parts of our society have chosen 'academics' over a broad-base of skills (e.g. athletics used to be extra-curricular, you only played sports if your grades were good enough.) Today some families focus on athletics, and the grades don't matter (schools pass the kid who can't read b/c he has a 4.0-40 time).
Something in the back of my brain tells me this is indicative of the future....
Not just girl’s sports.
ReplyDeleteBoy’s sports participation is also tanking. Concussions, dontchya know.
Collegiate Club Athletics, student run, student led, student organized are where the vital life lessons of sports are being learned right now. Varsity competition, especially at the higher levels, is too "important" (money is involved, key performance indicators, jobs) to allow kids space to fail.
ReplyDeleteClub Sports are a refuge of this vital "space to fail and learn". The kids found the orgs, the kids lead them, hire coaches (or not), manage budgets and have to decide where to land on the "competition" vs "casual" spectrum. The more you welcome everyone and create a fun environment, the harder it is to forge people into champions.
A conversation I've often had with the college kids I've coached over the years is "What do you want? Not what do you say you want, but what do you actually want? Your season isn't something that exists the 2 weeks before championships, it's the sum of every single day of hard practice, every easy practice and every day where you don't show up. If you work your butt off 5 days a week all year, you won't have to push hard the last week of the season, you'll know you did everything you could and be content."
Of course, because it a Club Sport and they're college kids the life lessons they learn are usually "you have to leave some people behind", "you can't be all things to all people", "trust organized people who show up on time and ready over friendly, disorganized people who flake" and "the most important thing to do is work your butt off while ignoring people who want to cruise".
The lessons are still being learned, it's just not on the Varsity field.
Oops, didn't close the loop on the thought:
DeleteThe lessons will ALWAYS be learned. It's just that you can learn them cheap in sports, vs "in the real world", so I'm heartened by how vibrant the Collegiate Club Sports scene is. It's often frustrating, but the kids are having fun and learning.
Exactly.
DeleteLots of lessons that used to be learned young with fewer consequences are now being learned later with far more consequences.
For an extreme example, see some of the rioters called protestors who have never been disciplined and are now injured, dead, or facing years in jail because they didn't learn limits and responsibility as kids.
Jonathan
ERJ, at my K-8 school where we had one class per grade level, we all cycled through the Flag Football/Basketball season. It was something we did with our friends. Other than something like Little League or Pop Warner football, there were not really any other options. By my 8th grade year, my local town had a rec league for soccer, which we played.
ReplyDeleteMy children had the same experience, although by this time the paid sports league was now a thing. They were not terribly sports interested and found other outlets, but it was again done with their friends. My sister's children did club soccer, which involves a lot of what has been noted above: travel, money, and a sacrificing of the "school" recreational leagues.
There are indeed a lot more distractions than there were when I was growing up - and to be honest, sports was a struggle for me. It was only in my 40's that I finally "found" my people in the form of martial arts, highland games, and (now) curling. But there is a real elements of sports as things we do, not things that teach us. They are perhaps just as much viewed as a vehicle to get us somewhere as a thing which teaches us lessons and improves our health.
I am encouraged by Spartan sports' comment above - and maybe that is the ultimate future of sports. Certainly competitor led sports - often also "fringe sports" - are a lot more engaging. It can also teach a lot of those lessons about cooperation, winning and losing, training, etc. - in a less crucible way, which something I find more helpful.
Video games, the social media changes and the 24/7 of attention grabbing modern world.
ReplyDeleteOne very cool thing about Lansing Catholic is no cut policy for sports. My son started a new sport freshman year. They put him on jv, coached him, and he kept with it all four years and had a great experience.
ReplyDeleteAs a wrestler it was you and him. No excuses, no alibis.
ReplyDeleteI did learn a bit too late that harder practice makes easier matches. Teammates are important, but self-motivation was the difference.
In college we had frequent dorm versus dorm snowball fights. Campus po-po and administrators looked the other way.