Blame: Signal or Noise

A commenter from Muskegon (maybe PP-51?) observed in an earlier post

"...until they (young adults) realize that blaming parents doesn’t get them anywhere, they’ll never realize they need to push themselves to improvement necessary to succeed in the world." 

What I like about his observation is that it bypasses all of the cheesy, amateur-psychology and the dubious chains of cause-and-effect. It focuses on what is effective.

The commenter boils it down to a simple, binary choice:

1. Blame external forces, like the choices your parents or other boomers made, and stay stuck because you cannot change them
2. Respond to the challenge, change your actions and succeed

Choose the outcome you want and then modify your actions accordingly. 

You can

1. Focus on past injustices (which  you cannot change)
2. or you can focus on changing the outcomes 

Worth sharing

I thought this was worth sharing. Yes, it is "AI" generated, but then so is a Google search. I agree with about 80% of the material. Where I differ is that I believe that we have to treat the people closest to us differently than friends and acquaintances.

Today's musical piece for Quicksilver

 

Intimacy is built by revealing small vulnerabilities and seeing how the other party respects or abuses that information. If the vulnerability is respected, then they are trusted with a more revealing and potentially more damaging vulnerability.

Intimacy requires maintenance and it is not possible to be emotionally intimate with a large number of people, hence the need for boundaries.