A Youtube short of about a minute.
The speaker says his piece and gets booed.
Paraphrasing (because I know some people dislike Youtube)
Men: Do you live a life that demonstrates enough virtue that a rational woman will be comfortable submitting to your authority?
When you are probing unknown territory, do you squash down your ego and ask for guidance? Do you ask HER? That is what mature authority looks like; using the best information to make the best decisions.
Women: Do you demonstrate enough virtue that a rational man will be willing to risk dying to protect you?
This is what "Women, submit to your husbands and men, love your wife the way Christ loved his church"means.
Asking her, if not done carefully (and depending on the woman), generally erodes your authority (and fitness to be her man) in her eyes.
ReplyDelete'Tis a fine line to walk.
Your comment reminds me just how blessed to have the good woman I have.
DeleteShe asks me for help; I ask her for help and neither feel our "authority" eroded.
The Bible calls her a Help Mate. Proverbs 31 doesn't spell out a woman as poor grade as your posting about.
I took care of the household budget. I paid the bills and reconciled the checkbook. My wife would often say that she wanted to do this.
ReplyDeleteI reasoned, her job is in her employer's financial department. She actually likes paperwork. Besides, I had a business to run. So I said okay its all yours.
She despised me for doing so. In her eyes I gave in. Three years later I found she had been embezzling from our household account. I had wondered why are we now short of money? She stonealled and clouded. She hid the checkbook and bank statements. It hadn't ocurred to me to just call the bank. I was busy with work and perhaps too focused on wife who I should be able to trust.
We had agreed to pay for daughter's 4 yr degree plus a couple hundred per month for fun. Wife had upped that amount without my knowledge. $400 became $800+
I had chosen badly. I had been deceived. She had presented herself as a Pr 31 women.
I feel your pain. I ended up shy three house payments when she left.
DeleteBut I've got the real thing now.
I haven't had to die for her yet, but I'm not pushing the issue either.
DeleteSorry to hear that friend.
DeleteShared authority means BOTH are involved in the decisions.
My wife and I do the bills together so embezzlement would be difficult.
Again I am well blessed with a fine woman of many decades.